According to a new study, more men than women fall in love at first sight.
What do we notice first about a person? Their looks, naturally. And sure, we can get blind-sighted by someone's beauty. So does that mean that love at first sight is real? Apparently, the guys seem to think so.
That's because a new study claims that men are more romantic
than women. Of the people surveyed, 48 percent of guys tend to fall in
love at first sight compared to 28 percent of women. But you have to
wonder: is this really love at first sight ... or lust at first sight?
After all, guys are visual creatures. And if recent science has taught us anything about dating, "love at first sight" is very deceptive. Researchers have proven
that romantic decision-making is done by several different parts of the
brain. There's the medial prefrontal cortex region of your brain, which
makes snap decisions about love (you can thank this part of your brain
for "love at first sight") and deeper down is the rostromedial
prefrontal cortex, a segment of the medial prefrontal cortex, which
considers your true compatibility with the person.
The "instant attraction"
mechanism doesn't always match you up with someone who will be the
right partner for you in the long haul. This is why we can have
mind-blowing sex with someone, but we later come to realize that after the fun is over ... there's nothing to talk about.
So if our brains are wired the same way, why the difference between men
and women? I can't speak for all the ladies out there, but as one
myself, I tend to see a guy for his poise, his maturity, how we connect
... his looks come second. And if we go off this study, guys seem to
(almost literally) take instant physical attraction at face-value. So
are they really "romantic"?
I don't think so. If you dig deeper into this study, you'll find a more
shocking statistic: a third of men admitted to having an affair. Well
gee, guys ... that's not very romantic.
Don't take me wrong, I'm not a woman who thinks all men are dogs. In
fact, most of my closest friends in life have been guys. What's more, I
have plenty of stand-up, gentlemanly guy friends who are true romantics
at heart and have had their hearts broken by girlfriends
who cheated on them or took them for granted. But having said that,
I've also seen how they've bounced back and moved on to the next
relationship. Even when they were in committed relationships,
I've heard them joke together about "the hot girl" down the hall in
their apartment complex and I've seen them sneak peeks at the female
bartender. I don't think much of it. I know that guys will be guys,
after all. My point is, they seem to "fall in love" easily (even easier
than me), but I don't think it's "love" at all.
I mean, how can you fall in love
with someone at first glance? How can you truly know someone before
you've met them face-to-face and exchanged hellos? Isn't love a bond
that deepens over time? At the risk of sounding cynical, I don't think
love at first sight exists at all.
If you think about it in those terms, the study makes sense. It's not necessarily that men are more romantic ... they just happen to like what they see.
Do you think men are more romantic than women? Tell us your thoughts in the comments below.
If you think about it in those terms, the study makes sense. It's not necessarily that men are more romantic ... they just happen to like what they see.
Do you think men are more romantic than women? Tell us your thoughts in the comments below.
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