Are You Trying To Change Your Man?

How many times have you heard women’s discontent with their male partners? While some women are perfectly happy with their partners, too many are in an eternal state of dissatisfaction. What does happiness entail? If happiness is attainable to all, why are marriages failing right and left?
The reason may be simpler than expected. Most women are not ready to have a man on their side. Instead, they want a girl friend. Let me explain. When you ask women what is their ideal for a perfect partner, the majority’s first choice is gender; they want a man. Ok. Granted.
Then, they go on listing what attributes they want for their man. Here is a simple list: sensitive, encouraging, romantic, loyal, sensible, understanding, tactful, touching, empathic, nice, agreeable, elegant, discriminating, attractive, kind, cooperative, honest, responsible, etc.
They also want a man who keeps them company in everything they do, who is helpful with chores, who is a true companion, who protects them, who loves their mother and family, who are hard workers, who takes care of them, who remembers birthdays and give them gifts and flowers, who thinks about them all the time, who dotes on them, etc.
If you think about this list, you will see that most of these characteristics belong to women, because they relate to feelings, which is a fundamental feminine trait. Though some men have many of the characteristics women desire, most do not, for the simple reason that men are different from women.
We keep hearing about Mars and Venus, different species and so on but it seems that some women still haven’t understood the primary differences between the genders, and hence set in motion discord, conflict, and misunderstanding, which eventually leads to a divorce or a break up.
Women ought to know that if they want a ton of sensitivity, presents, companionship, nurturing, caring, romance, etc., they might as well forget the men and stick with their girl friends. Girl friends listen to you, pray for you, cheer you on, understand your moods, needs and feelings, and are always by your side ready to hold you when you need.
So, if this is what you expect from a partnership, forget men. They are not cut up for this. It is not part of their mold. That is why you have your girl friends. Now, if you truly want a man, it is up to you to allow them to be who they truly are: a friend who thinks and acts in a complete different manner than you would in most of life’s situations but, who, nevertheless, are great partners.
Men are great people but they are not women with a different body. So let’s not demand from them to be what they are not. Only when you allow them to be who they truly are, you too, will live happily ever after in partnership.